10 Sane Steps for When He Makes You Crazy

Have you and your husband ever had that fight?

If not, be prepared...

There comes a time in your relationship when something happens...

Something sets one of you off and both of you say things so "unforgivably" spiteful and hurtful it seemingly shatters everything that was holding the two of you together.

You storm off and slam the door...

The tears begin to fall and you start to question everything... 

    "Did I make a mistake?"                                  
                        
                           "Maybe he wasn't the one for me after all??" 

                                                                            "Where did I go wrong?"   . . . 


You go through the rest of the day steaming mad at each other, avoiding eye contact, slamming cupboards and doors, all the while thinking "I will never forgive him for this...I don't deserve this...what a jerk!"

I know what you're thinking... "My husband and I are so in love with each other, this would never happen to us."

How did I know? Because I though that once, too!

Trust me... There will come a day when he will infuriate you to the point of making you crazy. I mean, absolutely bOnKeRs!!

What do you do if that happens? Oh, I'm so glad you asked!

I want to share with you this 10 Step plan from Lisa Jacobson. These 10 Steps have been essential tools for maintaining my marriage.

1. Wait until you cool down. Before saying or doing anything. A really good first step.

2. Pray about it. Yes, I really mean that. Prayer can settle your soul and clarify your thinking. Pray for him and pray for yourself.

3. Determine whether it's worth "fighting" for. I might simply be an offense you can overlook. Or maybe not.

If not...

4. Clearly identify the issue. Maybe it was only a "small" thing, but it's significant to you for your own reasons. Be ready to explain those reasons the best you can.

5. Approach him in love. This means not coming after him with eyes blazing (see #1).

6. Be prepared to listen. He might - just might - have his own side to the story. Hear him out too.

7. Give him time. He could need to think about it {and keep praying while he's thinkin'!}.

8. Be ready to forgive. Not necessarily because he deserves it. Or that it's easy. But because you've been forgiven much too.

9. Let it go. Don't - please - don't hold on and let bitterness take root. And don't throw it in his face the next time it happens. {Did i say "next time"...? Ugh.}

10. Choose to love him. All over again. And then again.

Hopefully you're not like me. You're even-keeled and nothing ever bugs you or hurts your feelings. You never get mad or frustrated with him. It's smooth-sailing for you and I'm so glad that it is. Truly.

But for those of you who struggle with much the same things as me? You might want to consider taking these Ten Steps.

Because if you're gonna go crazy, I say you might as well be crazy for him. 

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This gem of an author contributes to the Time-Warp Wife. You can read more of their jewels on life, home, and marriage here.

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